Steps to catch a cheating mate

Many people who suspect infidelity mistakenly believe they need to hire a private investigator or invest in expensive software or surveillance equipment to catch a cheating mate.

If you’re familiar with both the subtle and the obvious signs of infidelity, all you really need to catch a cheater are your own eyes and ears, and your personal knowledge of your mate.

Knowing what to look for is the key

1. Stay Alert

If you suspect your spouse or significant other of cheating on you, pay very close attention to everything he or she says and does from this point on.

Simply staying alert and being more aware of what is going on in your partner’s life will help you find out the truth.

During this information-gathering period, don’t let a single day pass without being alert for signs of infidelity. Signs and clues that are evident one day may be undetectable the next. So be alert for anything unusual, or any departures from your partner’s norm.

The majority of telltale signs are subtle. But once you have an idea of what to look for, most of them are relatively easy to find.

2. Write Down What You Find

Document everything! Keep accurate records of what you find. Don’t try to rely on your memory, because if your spouse is really cheating, you’ll find multiple telltale signs

Record your findings in a journal and keep it in a safe place, preferably under lock and key.

Log in the dates, times and places that suspicious or questionable incidents occur. (phone calls, absences, meetings, excuses or alibis given, names mentioned, etc.)

Once you have everything down on paper, you can analyze what you’ve found to see if there are patterns to your mate’s suspicious behavior.

Does he go to the store for a beer at 8:30 every Thursday night? Does he walk the dog for an extra hour on the first and third Sunday of each month? Does wear perfume to the health club to work out? Does she wear her sexiest lingerie only on days she calls home to say she has to work late?

Patterns like these will only be evident if you make a habit of document the things you find – even if they make sense at the time.

3. Exercise Caution

When you find physical evidence, pay close attention to exactly where and how it was found.

If possible, make photocopies, take photos with your cell phone, or write down phone numbers, e-mails, letters, receipts and any other incriminating evidence you come across. Then put things back exactly as they were.

Keep your “evidence journal” in a safe place. You’ll need the proof you’ve found when you sit down and inform your spouse or significant other that you know about or her affair.

Be discreet as you conduct your investigation. Keep your eyes and ears open and your mouth shut.

Maintain your secrecy; be careful not to tip your hand. If a cheater suspects he or she is on the verge of being discovered they’ll get rid of any evidence, concoct plausible-sounding excuses, or attempt to cover their tracks.

4. Don’t Ask, Because the Cheater Won’t Tell

As you gather evidence, you’ll be tempted to question your tell your spouse or significant other about some of the things you’ve found. My advice to you is - DON’T.

And do not come right out and ask the cheater if he or she is cheating, unless you’re prepared to hear a lie.

The cheater’s creed is: Lie and Deny. It usually takes solid evidence before a cheater will reluctantly (if ever) admit to having an affair. And even then, some cheaters will continue to lie.

Keep quiet. And don not confront the cheater, until you have most, or all of the facts on hand.

5. Restrain Yourself

It will be difficult, and will require great effort to restrain yourself as evidence against your cheating spouse or significant other begins to mount.

You may be tempted to drop a few hints, just to let the cheater know that you’re not a fool.

Until you’re prepared to confront the cheater, keep your lips zipped until you’ve gathered all the facts.

There’s nothing to be gained by dropping hints or letting the cheater know what you suspect. You’ll lose whatever advantage you’ve gained by exposing what you know too soon

6. Build Your Case

Once you have solid evidence that your spouse or significant other is cheating, experts agree that you should confront the cheater at an appropriate time and place, and inform him or her that you know about the affair.

The cheater can’t deny the truth if you’ve got everything down in black and white. That’s why it’s important to keep accurate notes.

7. Plan Your Confrontation

When the time is right, confront your spouse or significant other with the proof you’ve found, and inform or her that you know about the affair.

You can ask any unanswered questions you have, or get the missing pieces of the puzzle at this time.

Remain calm, listen to what the cheater has to say, and use this information to help you make an intelligent decision on what it’s in your ( and your children’s) best interests to do. 


A WORD OF CAUTION:
Do not jeopardize your safety searching for telltale signs, or trying to confront your mate. If your spouse or significant other has an explosive temper, or a history of violent behavior, take the necessary precautions to protect yourself, and leave the detective work to a pro. Do not put yourself or your children at risk.
 

'Ben Wa balls, Vagina tighten' - the secret ingredient for pelvic floor strength

A lady viewer and reader on my blog who is a single mother of four kids lives  somewhere in Europe was chating with me over the week end asking me to help her out on a gift her boy friend gave her because she doesn't know the function, she has never seen something like that before or what it meant for, and she did not want to call the boy friend to ask what to do or the function of the gift, she describing it to me but i could not really understand the object clearly and the function of the object so i asked her to post it to my in box, when i opened my in box this is what i found "The Ben WA balls", so i immediately know what her boy friend gave to her as a gift, then i was able to educate her more on the object and the health function of the Ben Wa balls. So this prompt me to go further to put this on my blog to educate my viewers and readers on my blog, so happy viewing as you read.

 

What are Ben Wa balls?

Geisha Balls (also known as Ben Wa balls, Loveballs and Kegel balls) are small marble sized balls that are inserted vaginally to strengthen the pelvic floor. While Geisha balls don’t necessarily lead to an orgasm they stimulate and a stronger pelvic floor increases the intensity of sexual intercourse. The balls come in different sizes, and it's a good idea to start with the smaller ones and work your way up.

Material & function of Ben Wa balls

Traditionally Geisha balls were three balls that were connected and made out of metal and mercury. Modern love balls are normally two 3-4cm wide balls made out of metal, plastic, and glass. Some of the balls are hollow and weighted with smaller metal balls inside. Once  inserted the metal balls will move, causing your vaginal muscles to tighten due to the sensation. There are also Geisha balls that are solid and normally heavier than the weighted version. These have to be kept inside by tightening the muscles, which also trains the pelvic floor.

Benefits of Kegel balls

1. increase sexual sensitivity and highly improved orgasms (for her)
2. more intense stimulation of the penis during intercourse (for him)
3. recovery after child birth
4. prevent bladder weakness through strengthening the muscles to stop or hold the flow of urine

Sizes of loveballs

Loveballs are normally 3-4cm wide and are comfortable to wear for all women. Some love balls come with different weights that can be mixed and matched according to the individual requirements.

As a rule of thumb women who have given birth or are older than 30 years should use two balls, while younger women should start with an individual ball. But as with all things it depends on the individual. If in doubt start with one lighter ball and increase the quantity and weight as your pelvic floor muscles get “fitter”.

How to use Geisha balls

Remember to wash the kegel balls with soap and water before and after usage and apply a little bit of water-based lubricant to make insertion easier.

15 Intresting Facts About Smiling

Everyone loves the quote “laughter is the best medicine,” and as a creative artist I have experienced the benefits of smiling and laughter with my clients and friends. In fact, smiling can boost your mood and even your immune system. Keep reading for more intresting facts about our smiles.

1. (1) Forcing yourself to smile can boost your mood: Psychologists have found that even if you’re in bad mood, you can instantly lift your spirits by forcing yourself to smile.
2. (2)  It boosts your immune system: Smiling really can improve your physical health, too. Your body is more relaxed when you smile, which contributes to good health and a stronger immune system.
3. (3) Smiles are contagious: It’s not just a saying: smiling really is contagious, scientists say. In a study conducted in Sweden, people had difficulty frowning when they looked at other subjects who were smiling, and their muscles twitched into smiles all on their own.
4. (4)  Smiles Relieve Stress: Your body immediately releases endorphins when you smile, even when you force it. This sudden change in mood will help you feel better and release stress.
5. (5)  It’s easier to smile than to frown: Scientists have discovered that your body has to work harder and use more muscles to frown than it does to smile.
6. (6)  It’s a universal sign of happiness: While hand shakes, hugs, and bows all have varying meanings across cultures, smiling is known around the world and in all cultures as a sign of happiness and acceptance.
7. (7)  We still smile at work: While we smile less at work than we do at home, 30% of subjects in a research study smiled five to 20 times a day, and 28% smiled over 20 times per day at the office.
8. (8)  Smiles use from 5 to 53 facial muscles: Just smiling can require your body to use up to 53 muscles, but some smiles only use 5 muscle movements.
9. (9)  Babies are born with the ability to smile: Babies learn a lot of behaviors and sounds from watching the people around them, but scientists believe that all babies are born with the ability, since even blind babies smile.
10. (10) Smiling helps you get promoted: Smiles make a person seem more attractive, sociable and confident, and people who smile more are more likely to get a promotion.
11. (11) Smiles are the most easily recognizable facial expression: People can recognize smiles from up to 300 feet away, making it the most easily recognizable facial expression.
12. (13) Women smile more than men: Generally, women smile more than men, but when they participate in similar work or social roles, they smile the same amount. This finding leads scientists to believe that gender roles are quite flexible. Boy babies, though, do smile less than girl babies, who also make more eye contact.
13. (14) Smiles are more attractive than makeup: A research study conducted by Orbit Complete discovered that 69% of people find women more attractive when they smile than when they are wearing makeup.
14. (15) There are 19 different types of smiles: UC-San Francisco researcher identified 19 types of smiles and put them into two categories: polite “social” smiles which engage fewer muscles, and sincere “felt” smiles that use more muscles on both sides of the face.
15. Babies start smiling as newborns:  Most doctors believe that real smiles occur when babies are awake at the age of four-to-six weeks, but babies start smiling in their sleep as soon as they’re born.

Joseph Olaoye Shopade for House of Representatives

Greetings to my dear brothers and sisters from Abeokuta South federal constituency. After due consultation with friends, family and political allies, I present myself as an aspirant for 2015 election into the House of Representatives under the political platform of Social Democratic Party (SDP).

Your support will enhance legislative voice of the first independent and premier local government in Nigeria. Your vote will guarantee effective Egba representation in national legislature. Your backing will open a new chapter of strategic lobbying and networking for advancing Egba interest at the national and international levels. I promise to make you proud!

Please join me in appreciating Governor Ibikunle Amosun for giving me an opportunity to serve the good people of Ogun state as Senior Special Assistant on Multilateral Agencies from Nov 2011 to Nov 2014. The heart will not forget!

I look forward to your support.
Ipakoto! Not by power!

 

 

 

[Must Read] 10 Most Sensitive Sexual Spots On The Human Body

Some spots on the human body immediately trigger a wave of sexual stimulation once touched. These spots are called erogenous zones. Do you know yours?

Do you know your body's most active sexual spots?

The pleasure of sex comes from the stimulation of certain spots on the human body that are called erogenous zones (E-zone).

What this means is that there are spots that do not cause sexual pleasure when touched while some spots immediately trigger a wave of pleasure once touched - sexually.

Every single person has these zones, some are general to everyone but a few people may have peculiar pleasure spots.

Here are some in no particular order:

1. Penis: The most common E-zone form men is the penis. It is the main reaction point to activation of almost every other E-zone.

2. Testicles: The testicles and scrotal region is a sure E-zone for the majority of men. Touch it and release a flood of emotions. For some men suffering weak erection, touching (licking too) has provided temporary solution.

3. Anus: This may come as a shocker but many men and women actually get a lot of pleasure form stimulating the anal region ... and it is not just gays. Hence the idea of anal sex.

4. Breasts: Breasts contain a lot of nerve endings that get stimulated with the slightest touch, especially with the women. The nipples and the areola area are highly erogenous. 

5. Lips: A kiss works wonders. Touching lips or a touch on/from the lips triggers sexual pleasure because the lips are active E-zones.

6. Vagina: Not much needs to be said about this. Both men and women know that is the most volcanic E-zone for nearly all women.

7. Tongue: Yes, the tongues too have been identified as the major E-zone for some. One woman said she can't stop sex from happening once her tongue gets stimulated during kissing.

8. Navel: Some people have found pleasure from having their navels touched, kissed. It may tickle a little but it is also an E-zone.

9. Inner thighs. The skin on the inner thighs are very active E-zones. Perhaps because of their proximity to the pubic region, touching them raises the sexual tension very much.

10.Others include: behind the knees, the buttocks, the neck region, behind the ears, wrists and foot .

How many of these spots are erogenous on your body? Do you have some peculiar spots?

Note that it would be beneficial to identify your partner's erogenous zones and give them the adequate attention so as to give maximum sexual pleasure.

Only then can you have them for keeps.

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