Must Lovers Have Séx Before Marriage? See Reasons

A lot of teens these days are taking something called the “purity pledge,” wherein they vow not to have séx until they get married. Hey, I’m all for people putting off séx until they’re ádults and can handle the rámifications. Because even with safe séx, séx comes with responsibilities. 

It does tend to emotionally bond you to someone, and that can mean getting emotionally attached to the wrong person. Once séx enters the equation, a relationship is never the same. But one woman recently wrote about her “purity pledge” that went wrong...

It led to an incredibly short starter marriage. Once she realized that she and her new husband had absolutely zero séxual chemistry, she counted down the days until she could get a divorce, which happened six months into their marriage. Here are five reasons to get rid of that purity pledge and do the dirty before you say “I do.”

Séxual chemistry.
Jessica Ciencin Henriquez, who kept her “purity” until her wedding night, writes in Salon:

"Our bodies wanted different things from one another, so what we ended up with was a horizontal battle. I would hear married girlfriends talk about the joys of make-up séx and continue to sip my coffee in silence. We would fight, and then have bad séx and then fight some more. Every flaw in our marriage and in him seemed much more miserable when combined with the possibility of faking orgasms until death did we part. There was no relief. Six months into our marriage, the idea of separating seemed more appealing than feigning headaches for the rest of my life."

As Jessica found out, séxual chemistry is something that can really only be ascertained by, well, having séx. Jessica would make out for hours with her husband before their marriage, so she thought that would translate into awesome horizontal mambo. But it didn’t.

Séxual identity.
I know too many couples where one partner was able to cover up his or her true séxual pérsuasion because he or she simply didn’t have séx with anyone. Not having séx with the opposite séx can also mean you ignore those longings you might have for the same séx, and therefore don’t acknowledge them.

Séx itself.
Not everyone is great in bed, and most people don’t start out very good at all. A lot of good séx is about listening to your partner and being able to respond accordingly. But how do you know if someone is a good listener or responder unless you try it first?

Size.
Don’t you want to know if your husband is packing a hunting rifle or a tiny little plastic kid’s pistol? After all, he knows how big your boobs are. I’m not saying size would be a dealbreaker, but don’t you have the right to know what’s down there?

Séxual issues.
Séxual problems like prémature éjaculation, inability to get an érection, or even an allergy to your partner’s semen are all possibilities, wouldn’t you rather deal with those issues before you’re married? This way you know if your future is even going to address them.

Let’s face it, séx plays a big role in marriage. Just like you should discuss children, religion, and where you both want to live before tying the knot, séx is too big a part of a relationship to leave to chance.

NOTE: this is not according to princewaleyusuf but from the Huffington Post.

So with these révelations, do you agree it’s a good idea to have séx before marriage?